Updated: Nov 11, 2022
When I was first going through my divorce, my initial thoughts were swirling around the crazy chaos and overwhelm of all of the changes, drama and betrayal. It was a lot to take in. It was a lot of adjustment. It was a TON of emotions.
But those do begin to subside, and once I got a little further down the path, I remember beginning to make decisions FOR ME. Not for him. Not for us. Not for the family. But decisions for me! It was such a breath of fresh air. I felt so independent making the choices. I was able to make those choices from a place where I felt most aligned with myself -- who I was and who I was becoming. Making choices in my own best interest.
I didn't have to ask if we had money for the yoga teach training I wanted to attend. I budgeted that for myself.
I didn't have to hear we couldn't afford for me to go on a yoga retreat to Costa Rica. (It seems we always had a budget for "the guys ski trip" though.) I made incremental payments and was able to go.
There was so much freedom in making my own decisions. And not even the big ones.
Pancakes for dinner? YUP!
Skip the bath tonight? Eh, why not?
Letting the kids stay up to watch a move? Heck yeah!
Don't get me wrong, it wasn't all fun and trips and stinky movie nights with the kids, but it was mine to decide. MY household to run MY way.
Allow yourself some latitude to make those NEW decisions. Try something out of the ordinary. Find some different routines that fit you, your kids, your budget, your time and your interests. Learn and adjust to what work and what doesn't. Most importantly -- have fun with it!