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Create Intentional Thoughts for Self-Confidence During Divorce

The year of my divorce was a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions. I was up...I was down. I was having fun...I was depressed. I was content....I was angry. It was all overwhelming and completely unsustainable. It was unhealthy.

I finally realized that I had to get ahold of myself and take control. I had to prioritize myself, my thoughts and my emotions to make real change and find the stability that I craved.

The roller coaster that occurs after separation and through divorce is very real. But one way to build your self-confidence and take control back is to begin with your thoughts. With the thousands of thoughts we have each day, around 90% of those are repetitive. and almost as many are negative. We live life on unhappy repeat every day.

So how do you fix those negative thoughts? Glad you asked! Let's take a look at a few ways to create intentional thoughts that will help you through your divorce process and well after.

1) Become aware of negative thoughts

Taking some time to become aware of our thoughts can be eye-opening! Not just allowing them to slide through unnoticed and letting them creep by willy-nilly any longer will give you some insight as to where you need to do the most work. Just because that thought pops up, doesn't make it TRUE! You get to analyze that thought and determine if it's true or not.

2) Make small changes in those negative thoughts to create more intentional positive ones

Once you can name the negative thoughts, then you can begin to make changes to new thoughts that bring you new results. Let's say your ex managed the household income, and now that you have to make financial decisions you're not sure how to do it. Instead of "I can't manage money", you may want that new thought to become "I manage and invest